Many of my clients have reported lacking motivation. This could range from not being motivated enough for work, to not being able or quit smoking or to get up each day. They are looking to obtain both negative and positive motivators and motivations to doing something, while negative motivations are geared towards not doing things (not smoking for example).). The most common method they have tried before (unsuccessfully) has been to beat themselves into it. This is usually done by a negative inner dialog like: "You lazy person, you'll never get anywhere;" "you have to do this whether you like it or not;" or "no one will ever love you until you do." Sometimes, they have attempted to convince themselves with bribes or other tricks that works for a short time however, it fails sooner or later. Sometimes, they've enlisted another person to make them feel pressured by using a motivating group, hypnosis or a parental substitute or parent and will tell them that they must behave. For more detail please visit:- This third option works quite well for some people for longer periods of time. However, the essence of this approach is to sway the natural processes of the client and those who come to me come because they've resisted the authority of that particular group or individual, and realize that they're unable to do what they would like to because of their rebellion! Truth is, when we feel that someone else is pushing us around in a negative way, we're not likely to react cooperatively. Especially with regard to situations when the "pushy person" is oneself and not a friend! ! It is the truth that no matter how nasty and angry people become about themselves, they can't be motivated. Together my clients and myself have had tremendous, verifiable success with these problems, and every client who worked with me has had success in motivating themselves by as well as "negative motivation" and "positive motivation". The reason behind this success is htat creating motivation is easy. I believe that motivation comes out of celebration and appreciation. I prefer to put it as an equation: celebration plus appreciation is motivation. That's what I mean by that when you find the way to feel grateful for the things you've accomplished, and to celebrate your achievements in the past (and be assured that it's possible to do this) you'll find you're "magically" motivated to accomplish more. It's no effort, no stress-you accomplish out of the sheer joy of the achievement! To illustrate what I am talking about I will present two possible employers. There is the "bad boss" and the "good boss". The Bad Boss -Operates through intimidation and criticism... Never praises or complains (you only know you're doing OK because the boss never says anything) -Gets nasty if you make a mistake You are a source of ridicule when you are in front of other people Never think you've done enough. You are assumed to be lazy and dishonest Modifies the rules arbitrarily Isn't satisfied or happy (get the image?) The Good Boss -Praises are often offered. Always let you know when you're doing well -Asks you what you need whenever you've made a mistake; It is extremely helpful Are you worried about your overall health as well as your productivity -Assumes you want to do the best job possible. Helps you feel you are part of the team Then treats you as a valued human being It is clear what duties are expected of you. Both of these bosses have the same goalin mind: get the job done. However, there is significant difference in the results of their distinct management styles. Consider your possible reaction to the two styles of management. The bad boss's office is characterised by tension and anger. They work to keep the boss away from their backs, and consequently goof-off whenever he/she is not around. They're not productive, because they don't have the motivation to do anything other than to avoid the boss's anger. They operate in a mental state we call "adaptation", which is focused on keeping people (usually someone angry or nasty) out of their way. They don't have any loyalty to anything other than their pay or perhaps even each other in the same way that prisoners who are ill-treated are loyal to one another in the event of a confrontation with the jailer. Offices that are characterised by lack of efficiency and conflict. If the boss demands the use of overtime, he/she will encounter resistance. If you worked for this boss How would you feel? Would you show up to work every day happy? Would you be willing to volunteer for additional work? Would you be excited about each new assignment? Maybe not. In essence, you'd not feel highly motivated Do you? On the other hand, the employees of a great boss tend to take pride in themselves and the work they do. They are happy with their achievements and keen to improve and be more successful. If the boss has gone and the work continues on, because people are in a state of motivation, and are being gratified by their feeling of accomplishment. When the boss demands an extension, he or she will be received with a positive response. Again, take a moment and visualize yourself in this scenario. What do you think you would feel? Would you feel eager to please your boss? Would you be eager to see his or her reaction to your most recent work? Would you want to help out in the event of extra work? It is likely that you would. You are enthusiastic and motivated and eager to get started each day. Be aware of the different in your attitude in these two scenarios. Which boss would you rather work for? It should be as obvious to you as it is for me. I would prefer the good boss (just the names I've selected for these two styles may have made it evident.) In the daily tasks and circumstances of our lives We become our own bosses, regardless of whether we are aware of it or not. We can choose which type of boss we would like to be for ourselves. If you choose to do as many people I work with (and myself) have, then you choose to become the good person to be your boss. That means you will learn to be kind to yourself and understanding, and be generous with your praise, and gentle when you make corrections. This will allow you to accomplish your goals with fulfillment and pride, and lots of enjoyment. You'll feel motivated and will wonder why you've not realized how easy it was. All of this can be achieved through two "magic motivators": celebration and gratitude. Most of us know how to be grateful to those around us. But in the case of ourselves, we feel awkward and uncomfortable when we give too much praise. Being told not to brag or to be stuck up as children have left a mark on us and self-appreciation is a bit awkward. However, if motivation is a desirable quality self-appreciation is a must and desirable too. The good news is that you can learn this trait. If you're wanting to develop self-esteem and self-love but it's difficult for you, I recommend practicing using a variety of methods. A lot of my clients have enjoyed the opportunity to purchase small stars made of gold (just like they were in high school) and present them to themselves in recognition of work completed, or any achievements they wish to celebrate. The stars slapping on a calendar daily can be highly effective. Go ahead, award yourself lots! Other kinds of stickers are also available. A client of mine was able to reward herself for being successful with her eating program with small stickers that represented jelly beans, chocolates, and ice cream cones! The dessert was a token of praise rather than calories. Additionally, it is effective to remember back to memories of childhood celebrations and birthdays. A client of mine was warned not to be loud because her grandmother was sick. She was however allowed playing her accordion at the volume she could when she played. Even to this day it feels like a celebration and a opportunity for her to show off. Birthday parties and holiday events that were special could be utilized as ideas. If Mom always prepared a turkey meal for a big occasion and set up the dining room with the most exquisite china, or even a champagne bottle was served, the ingredients may signify celebration and accomplishment. Crepe streamers made of paper, banners candles, balloons flowers, clothing that is special (your fancy shoes, new hat) gatherings of friends medals, awards, and trophies can all indicate achievements worth celebrating. Consider using at least one of these items on occasions that you would like to inspire. If you're feeling anxious on the first day of the new job, then celebrate your day by drinking sparkling applesauce or diet cola served in your best champagne flutes, and candles on the table. Add some gold stars on your calendar for the accomplishment of a difficult homework task. Get your daughter an award with her name to clean up her space over the course of a whole month. There is no such thing as too much celebration or praise. Do you feel there is too much motivation? Of course not-the more the greater the enjoyment. Flowers on the table just to express how much you love yourself could do a lot toward making you happier any day. A new novel of a trashy romance can be a great reward/celebration for reading your required technical book. The important point is that recognizing your accomplishments will create motivation to accomplish more. Have fun with your celebrations Have fun. Celebrate a cherished friendship with an informal lunchtime picnic and even a balloon. Most importantly, enjoy yourself. That's the objective! If you find yourself around somebody who has the upper hand and tells you the right way to go or makes comments without asking how you are doing things wrong, or appoints him/herself as the boss on your behalf, you might notice that your newfound motivation is fading. Remember to fire them in the role of your superior. It's YOUR life, and you're doing what you're doing because you WANT to. You should not give a any other reason for anything but yourself. Once you have fired this self-appointed boss, then you'll need to remember what you've accomplished with that kind of support. Celebrate your independence, your spirit, your willingness to take responsibility for your actions. You can also organize informative books, articles, television authorities, gurus for example. to be your boss. In this the event, you'll be unable to keep your motivation up. These tools for information can be beneficial, but only if you keep them in the right perspective. The boss is the one who gets details on how to handle things, gets educated, seeks out help whenever needed, but the boss remains in the control. Information is for you to use, however no expert (no none, not even the therapist) can tell if this information is appropriate for you. If you know who your boss is, then you'll make use of the information wisely, refusing to accept whatever it is that isn't in line with your style or your personality. It will be used to help you achieve your goals, as well as to facilitate the celebration of your accomplishments. If you are experiencing a lack of motivation flagging, look around for the way you're performing managing your work. Are you displaying a motivating, supportive style? Have you let someone else be in charge? Have you received the appreciation that you require?

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